Your friend has decided that you need help with your social life so he or she arranges a blind date for you…. a friend of a friend of a friend. You, foolishly accept. Now you are. It is less than one hour since you were introduced. You sit in a Thai restaurant, for instance, and you hate Thai food. The entrée has not yet been served. His or her idea of an enlightened conversation is who will be in the final four in a reality show… you are not into Reality TV. He or she knows the weekly TV schedule verbatim…. you watch television for months because you run marathons and volunteer at the local food bank. He or she says, ” Volunteering is a waste of time, because you can not help ‘ those people ‘ anyway. ” You look at your watch; see that it is only 10 minutes since you last looked at it the last time and wonder how long it is before you can gracefully remove yourself from the situation. Unbelievable, right?
Now imagine a date with someone you met through the Internet chatting online and exchanging emails with for quite some time. First, you do not need to be introduced. You already know this man or woman. You sit in an Italian restaurant, for instance, enjoying a delightful meal because you both know that you enjoy Italian food. The conversation flows easily as you discuss common interests. He or she even runs marathons and loves volunteering work just like you do. You happily and blithely discuss the volunteer work that each of you are involved in. You glance at your watch and discover that it is late… very late… where has the time gone?
There is a great difference between a well-intentioned friend setting you up and choosing a man or woman yourself who shares your interests and tastes, right? Now which one would you rather have?